Kathleen Bremner
To be honest with you, I was disappointed in the fact that Arthur did not produce what I understood he would, and that was to film the parents in our support group. To help other parents all over the nation witness the pain and heartbreak most parents feel when they learn or discover their son or daughter is "gay."
There are areas in our nation where there is no support group and I know this could have been a blessing for others to know that they are not alone. I know that most parents feel that they are the only one who feels that way. It is so hard for parents who are devastated and heartbroken when they have no one to talk to who will begin to understand their feelings.
Our purpose in the ministry of Spatula 11 is to give comfort to hurting, disappointed and devastated parents — to try to help them reconcile the relationship with their child through insight and understanding. No one can change another person, but a parent's attitude can influence the relationship through genuine caring and love. The parents I know deeply love their child and only want the best in life for that child. I believe that it is only through a relationship with God and with a loving caring family and friends that a person can change their behavior.
When a person sincerely wants to change any kind of behavior or addiction, it may be difficult, but they can change their behavior if they really want to. That is not to say that they will immediately lose their desires, but they can learn to control themselves. How does a person learn to lose weight? By controlling their appetite. God has given every man and woman their own free will. They can exercise that will... and do what ever they will. The reasons why a person will choose to become homosexual has many facets. Briefly, child abandonment, sexual abuse, rape, poor father relationship — [to name] a few.
My Daughter
The pride I have in my daughter I have for many reasons. Knowing what I know about this little girl who was a gift from God to me when she was born. I would be dishonest if I said that it did not hurt me when she stepped into the world of homosexuality. It took some time before I was set free from this. It was through insight, understanding and my faith and the love I have for my daughter that the pain in my heart began to heal.
The woman she is today is a woman who has overcome tremendous adversity, hardships, disappointments and rejection. The abandonment and death of a father, the sexual abuse of a man she trusted, the loss of a college scholarship, the death of a young husband, the failure of a business, and the theft of a dream — to name a few. She has struggled to rise above all these many devastating circumstances that have touched her life. She is an intelligent, loving, caring, likeable human being. She dearly loves her family, her pets, her friends and her life. She has taken all of that which has happened to her and found something beautiful in her faith, her trust in God, her friends that she loves and who love her. Her dedication to helping others, with four paws and otherwise. She is a strong, loving human being, she is my daughter and I love her and always will.
I wish with all my heart that I could have changed the circumstances in her life that have hurt her. I wish they had never happened. But they did. I have seen in her life and in the lives of others pain, sorrow and misery from the emotional damage that she and others have suffered. It seems the damage will continue as long as they seek to find love in the wrong places. When they walk away from the life that has wounded their heart they will find peace. The God that has always loved them is waiting with open arms. The door of His heart is always open.
The fact that I have a good relationship with her, is in no way an indication that I condone — or ever will [condone] — homosexual relationships. However, I do understand the need to love and to be loved in return. People will look for love in the wrong places. The day will come, if it hasn't already, when my daughter will have a close relationship with the One who loves her, who will never fail her and will never stop loving this lady who is my daughter.
God bless you, Kathleen Bremner